Men, Women, Sex and Social Programing (PART 2)

The Man's Mindset
Read Part 1 HERE

Now for the juicy part: Sensual Power

Being sensually powerful means to understand and appreciate the sexual potential in a woman, and having the passion to bring it out in her, to bring it all to life enabling her to discover her own sense of personal and sensual power. It is about sharing, two people celebrating being human beings. She is the feminine compliment to your masculinity and vice versa. It is not about outcome, it is about complimenting and enhancing each other.

All interaction is sexual at the very core, while you respect that she wants to be treated like a lady. Because you command respect, she takes what you say seriously acting on what you say. Thus what you command becomes real for her, which means she becomes responsive to you. She knows that you can make her think powerful thoughts and feel powerful emotions and knows that you can realize her sexual potential. Thus you are a sexual threat (in a good way). You are capable of eliciting and validating her emotions and building a powerful emotional connection with her. You create intimacy that is so close and so rewarding that you establish a powerful sexual connection that transcends anything she has ever experienced.

All of us were born sexual creatures. Everything about us is such that we may mature and procreate. And we are such that it is all pleasurable and fulfilling. But for some of us, somewhere along the line, something went very wrong. Shame, guilt, self consciousness, or self doubt set in, and anything about sexuality became something very uncomfortable.

But the reality is that most women will sleep with a man, but will not decide if they love him for maybe six months. That's reality. Most women are much more sexual than men and require that they be treated with respect for the lady that they are. Comfort, safety and respect will be the needed for her to be able to sleep with him.
As for love, most women are completely turned off by men who fall in love with her in the first few dates, or even weeks. For her, it cheapens the concept of love. Most women understand that it takes really getting to know someone before falling in love which can take quite a bit of time.

Women are far more sexual then men

Movies, television shows, stories, what other people told us, what our parents told us, all that “social programming” told us that we have to talk women into having sex. It almost made it seem as if sex for a woman was a chore she performed as a reward.

Women actually WANT to have sex! Not as a reward to “a nice guy,” but simply because women love sex. Women have elaborate intricate fantasies beyond anything men can imagine. It is largely mental and emotional, and about being “taken” and “ravaged.” But it does NOT mean that women want to be raped. Certainly NOT! But in the context of consent, mental stimulation, emotional rapport, and trust, women love to be taken and ravaged like the sluts that they love to be. Now that does NOT mean that women want to be sluts. But in the correct context, with her trusted lover, women love to become ruthlessly expressive sexual creatures.

In many cases, women are far hornier than men. So why did all that social programming want us to believe that women didn’t like sex that much? It appears that there are a number of reasons for this.
Social programming protects women from men who only want to use women for sex. If social programming trains people to believe that women must first be in love to have sex, or must first be in a committed relationship, then women always have a defense against men who view them as objects. If parents teach their children that sex is only for love and marriage, then maybe their children won’t go out and have sex and get pregnant. Interestingly, the social programming does parallel the reality of being a woman to some degree.

Most women are sexually submissive and do not initiate sex. Instead, they respond to their man when he initiates. And most women prefer it that way, they're excited by the fact that their man is excited by her. It makes her feel feminine and beautiful. Unfortunately though, women are also victims to social programming. Social programming is interpreted to mean that any woman who loves sex must be a slut. Even though women love sex, they’d never admit it to a stranger. It would make them appear as a slut inviting advances from men who objectify women.

The advantage of all this social programming is that since it is against social norms for a woman to love sex, it makes it even more exciting WHEN a woman demonstrates that. Anything that is taboo is even MORE exciting because it IS taboo. To further complicate things, men have been raised to be proper polite gentlemen, and we have been taught that to suggest sex to a woman would insult her because it would insinuate that she is a slut.
That piece of social programming hinders men and puts them in a predicament. A man wants to be sexual with the woman he is interested in, but he can’t suggest it because it would insult her. The woman certainly can’t suggest it because that would define her as a slut. And besides, women are sexually submissive, they prefer that the man initiate.
So what are people to do?
You’re the man who’s going to leverage her emotional soul to connect with her, her romantic heart to entice her, her innate sensuality to excite her, and her downright horniness to satiate her, and then do it the next day, and the next, until she is delirious with pleasure, ecstatic about being a woman, totally loving life, and wildly crazy about you!

For her to feel sexy with you, she must feel like a woman. That means that you must be a MAN. You must be comfortable with yourself. That means lack of self doubt. That means complete self assuredness. Be comfortable with her. Be comfortable with that fact that she is a highly sexual being.
Treat her like a lady, while you have confidence that the natural woman in her will come to life. Be chivalrous, gentlemanly, manly, protective. Play the MAN’s role. When comfort has been established, admire her beauty. When intimacy has been established, show her that she excites you. And, always, always abide by the “It just happened” clause.

She should always be able to later justify it by saying “It just happened.”


Elena Kassab said...

"It just happened" ftw =D And long live men who don't fall in love directly, who act like men and respect women ^^

Danielle said...

"women love to be taken and ravaged like the sluts that they love to be." haha! I really admire how open you are on your blog!

I want to say so much, but I'm shy too! I blushed the whole way through this post! haha