The Purpose Of Relationships And Human Needs

Have you ever asked yourself what the real purpose of a relationship is? Any relationship?
It is so common in life we say we want things but forget what we want them for. What happens with most of us is that we don’t know what we’re after! And so we get disappointed when we don’t get what we don’t know we want!

So to get clear here, some people say the purpose of all relationships is to communicate, others say to learn, to share to know, to understand, to experience things. And all those answers are accurate but the real purpose of a relationship, that feeds out of all the things I just mentioned is one simple thing: The purpose of a relationship is to magnify the human experience.
Let’s think about it: how does it feel when you experience something on your own (it can be phenomenal) but why do you want to share it?
Because in the sharing there is magnification, you get to experience it again. When that other person gets excited, it gets you even more excited, or when he/she gets sad it gets you even more sad. When there’s this emotion that’s shared there’s this power and synergy something BIG occurs, things get magnified!

Relationships are about sharing, and the quality of your relationship is in direct relation to the amount of yourself that you are able to share with someone. In other words the person feels, hears, experiences the other. So if you’re in a relationship and you’re not able to share…guess what…you’re not in a relationship. When we’re relating together, and moving in a direction, like in a ship, we’re moving the ship together experiencing all the elements of the spirit together. The power is in the unity and relatedness.

So if you want the most out of your life, if you want an extraordinary life, the edge comes in extraordinary emotion, extraordinary psychology and that comes in your capacity to share with quality people at a deep level on an ongoing basis that expands the ability to enjoy your life.
The REAL SECRET to relationships is this: A relationship is a place you go to GIVE.
Not a place you go to get. When you measure how much you give and you get in return, you have a transaction, not a relationship. A relationship is about unlimited sharing, unlimited giving and when you share at that level you magnify all that’s good. When we make a conscious decision that our relationships are relly about magnifying the good in the person we love and it’s a place we’re going to give then we’re going to receive ten fold, it’s the rule of life.

This doesn’t happen because we get hooked by the things that happened in our past, and we get trapped by them. You see, everybody has the same needs no matter who or where: for certainty, variety, uncertainty (surprise), challenge, to feel significant, important, unique, special, to feel like we’re needed everybody has those needs. Every one of those needs must be met by all human beings, but we don’t all pursue these needs the same way. Some people want to be significant by achieving so their focus is fully drawn onto their job. So connection becomes a secondary thing they eventually get to, but these people end up unhappy at a later stage. Some think everything is about relationships and that one single love relationship which when it gets into trouble they feel they have no life anymore.

Just know that relationships are about meeting each other’s needs. If you can help your partner feel certain that by being in a relationship with you they are going to feel comfort, joy, love; if you can help them experience more variety, cool surprises, learning, growing, challenge and stimulation; if you can help your partner feel totally special, unique and you mean it, when you value them and you see the unique qualities they have then you will be in a relationship that is LEGENDARY.

I wish you the absolute best!
May the joy be with you.

A Moment In Paradise

Hand in hand, they walk on the white sandy beach. She looks into his eyes as she hold his hand with a tight grip, not wanting to let go. With a smile she caresses his soul as he reciprocates, looking deep into hers. The wind plays with her hair, and flicks through his white semi transparent shirt. Playing with each other, small caresses, laughs and giggles they guide each other through the sand and stones to their sanctuary in paradise. A beautiful wooden cottage set in the middle of the ocean, a wooden trail leads to a breathtaking end, surrounded fully by the shining blue sea and heavenly setting, paradise is only an understatement.
As they make their way to the cottage, part of the Tahitian Bora Bora Intercontinental Resort, they are greeted by two hostesses who guide them through into the room and giving them all the info they need. But as our couple went in, they were so engulfed in each other, they didn't even listen to anyone else.

Sami and Roula sit on the bed, facing each other. On one side they notice a welcoming exotic drink awaits them, on the other side a beautiful window with an ocean view that takes your breath away. The sea is so blue, so clear they could notice some fish in the waters. But all of that was mere detail. Sami couldn't take his eyes off of his radiant new wife. A lady of magnificent beauty. Her eyes take you into her heart, those blazing hazel frontiers to her soul. He smiles as he looks deep into them, she replies with a subtle and very low voice "I love you". Its like she has fired him up with those simple letters, his face lights up as he comes closer and his hand caresses her brown silky brunette hair, softly and gently holding her delicate sweet face. Her eyes brighten up, lightning up his heart, passion exchanging kisses through their senses, guiding their emotions into an unimaginable bliss.
He slowly takes off her white shirt, as his lips softly draw the contour of her beautiful sun-kissed face.
her hands hold his head softly, guiding him on this journey of exploration. Her delicate, soft skin, curves beautifully drawn, a living painting with an extraordinary sensuality that Sami could not find any words to describe. As the night sets in, the caresses continue, the kisses painting two bare, delicate creatures. For Sami, Roula is a gift from heaven tailor made to perfection. Her breasts of unimaginable beauty call for his skin, her lips, full and eager for his, her body slowly shivering in anticipation awaiting the magestic conclusion. For Roula, there are no words to describe how she feels when he's holding her so dearly in his firm arms. The beautifully drawn chin, his hypnotic eyes, his body sculpted with divine God-like mastery, the packs, the feet, the firm skin, everything just fits.

It is soon enough that the basic animal in Sami is let loose, to ravish and uplift Roula into a world where time has no value, no limit, no expression. A moment when everything fades away and the bodies build up with divine sensations. Two souls unite through the envelopes of those bodies, touching, sweating, moving in rhythmic beats of pure ecstasy. It is in that moment that his inner beauty and his body unite in celebration of her inner and outer existence as well. As the night passes, moment after moment, their moans of pleasure, expression of joy, their divine celebration continues creating melodies for a song only they can comprehend. He transforms her body with his touch to vibrant mass of energy. Her breasts scream for more of his skin, her inner core drips with thirst for his ravishing love. His mouth cannot get enough of her taste.

Slowly, the sun begins to rise and casts his rays upon the dissolved couple, sleeping peacefully as they surrendered to each other in a somewhat endless journey of peace. As the sun spreads its rays, a few make their way into the room, touching their bare bodies. Some light shines into Sami's eyes, and he opens them slowly with a little confusion. He peacefully sits on the bed, looking around the room, not understanding much of the location.
"Where am I?" he asks himself. As his eyes slowly open to give him a better view, he notices the Cirque Du Soleil poster hanging on the wall in front of him, a mirror and some clothes on the ground, underwear and a little mess right next to his bed. He's lying naked...."so that was just a dream?"
With a little disappointment, he makes his way to the bathroom, but only to get the unexpected surprise: something was written on his mirror using red lipstick, it said: "Nice to meet you, thanks for last night".
As he makes up the message, he looks to the ground, and silently smiles.