Women Are Not Liars

"Keeping your word is a masculine trait, in men or women. A person with a feminine essence may not keep her word, yet it is not exactly lying. In the feminine reality, words and facts take a second place to emotions and the shifting moods of relationship. 
On the other hand, the masculine means what it says. A man's word is his honor. The feminine says what it feels. A woman's word is her true expression in the moment."

The sounds you hear from your woman are sounds of the motion of her "feeling energy". Of course, there are times when she speaks in the masculine style of meaning exactly what she says, but more often, and almost always in emotional moments, what she says is the sound of her feelings. In an emotional moment, what she says she is going to do is actually an expression of what she feels like doing in the moment. Her feelings, and therefore her actions, could change in five minutes, every five minutes. 
Whenever you are surprised by your woman's actions, you are forgetting that she has a feminine essence. What your woman says is like a cloud passing in the sky. Your woman's words are expressions of the physics of her feelings, your relationship, and the nuances of the present situation, seen and unseen. Moments later these factors will change (just like a cloud's physical states) and so will your woman's expressions.


You might ask her to go out to the movies with you. At first she might reply negatively and not wanting to go. Then you hug her, cuddle her and say, "Let's go to the movies!" and she agrees.
In this case, she is not talking about her desire to go to the movies, she is reflecting the feeling of your relationship in the present moment. 
If after she said she didn't want to go to the movies, you sat down, watched TV through the night, you would be missing the point. She is not really saying she doesn't want to go to the
movies, even though that is what she's literally saying.

This is not lying. For a man, or for anyone speaking in the masculine style, to say something that is not true is lying. But, for the feminine, truth, compared to the flow of feelings, is a thin concept. The "truth" of the feminine is whatever she is really feeling.

As a masculine force, instead of arguing about what she said or didn't say, establish love in the intimacy first.

Basically, don't believe the literal content of what your woman says unless love is flowing deeply and fully in the moment when she says it. Remember that a woman's feelings may be more sensitive to an unseen realm of nature than are yours. Try to differentiate between your woman's shifting moods and her sensitive wisdom.
Women are not liars, although they often seem that way to men. This is why a man must ultimately be responsible for making his own decisions, based on the deepest truth.

Hear what your woman has to say and feel her depth carefully. Enjoy her subtle sensitivity and changing emotional weather patterns. You can proceed with or modify your actions in full gear, knowing you are always making the best choice available to you, considering her depth of wisdom and her fluctuations of mood and expression.


Alex said...

I wish every man would rationalize like you do. Nice post.